Sensitive to People telling me I don't need to lose weight
by, October 18th, 2011 at 03:44 PM (430 Views)
Okay I should just take it as a compliment but I can't. I keep getting comments like, "you don't need to lose weight" or "don't lose too much", or "you are fine the way you are, why don't you accept yourself"
It really friggen bugs me. For one thing it is my body, my choice. For another thing I totally disagree. I am 5'5" and normal range for me is between 111-145. I want to be at the lower end of normal range. I am trying to be super model skinny. I want to be comfortable in my clothes, and not feel awful in a swimsuit. So why are all these people telling me to stop. I could understand if their was risk of anorexia or somthing, but I am not even close. I am quite voluptuous at 140 and really disliking my heavy thighs, thick arms and belly. Isn't okay to want to look good and lose weight????
I don't know if people are threatened, envious, concerned or just actually want to say something and saying, "good for you, about time you lost weight" would be sort of an insult, so its better to say I don't need to lose weight than encouraging me on.
I suppose it is just a sensitive subject. I guess I would tend to tell someone not to lose than to lose. I told my friend, who is on it with me and wants to quit. She should stay on it at least stick the 23 days and didn't she want to lose it a little more? She was insulted and said, she was happy with her weight. I quickly nodded agreement, said she looked great, but she should stick to protocol to make sure she keeps it off and wouldn't it be nice to end up lower than goal weight so you have some leway. She has decided to stick out the 23 days but I think she is still offeneded that I am encouraging her to lose more. It is not that I think she "should" and If she is happy at the weight great, but protocol and leway seem like great reasons to continue.
Well okay, I realize I am not being honest. I do think she would look better if she lost more. She is my height and weight and it is my personal preference, but I think if she is happy there it is totally her decision but I really think she needs to finish protocol to not have problems keeping it off. I also have read many senior members saying they stick better with a longer vlcd time. So I want to go as long as I can go. I still never made it to 40 days.