How Many Big Girls Are on This Forum? Weighing Over 250 Lbs?

[cazspice]

Oh and I had to chuckle when you said you are still losing in P3/P4 (which we are not suposed to) so that in itself is great BUT then say the yoga is probably making you not lose as much. lol

Ha! That is funny reading it back. For context...I was losing between 3-5lbs a week during P3, and it has slowed down to 2lbs a week since I started yoga and exercising 2-3X a week. I am not complaining!!

[cazspice]

Big hugs, Caz.... and amazing that you stuck to your guns! Depression sucks... been there, done that, and just happy that since switching to paleo, I have been spared.

Can we compare ages here? I am 37. Have no motherly feelings, so I am fine not having a family or kids. And I think living the way I do, in Hamburg with my kinds of friends, there is no real pressure either... so I am usually fine being single. And I have never been much of a nun. Last affair war 1 1/2 years ago, with a gay/ bi escort 10 years my junior. Don't ask. But by far the most gorgeous guy I have ever been with.

Thanks Sweetie, depression does stink; glad to hear this diet is helping it subside for you! I am 35, and I do have some of those motherly longings, but not strong enough to ever try doing it alone. I *know* I am not old, but when the idea of having a family is on my mind I can't help but feel the few years left I have to have a baby (without being a 45 year old mother of an infant!); and perhaps its the result of being surrounded by college kids in my job, but I am a bit sad that my youth was a sad, fat existence - I wish I had this thinning body and the same youthful exuberance (and age!) I see in my students. But I think this funk has been more about the question of whether I will ever be desired or loved by a man. I know it's a drastic and unreasonable thought, but it's just where I have been at. On a day to day basis, I am really fine being single, but sometimes it would be really nice to come home to someone!

Cazspice: You know I know how ya feel! You'll get through, it's never too late. As as my signature says... you'll be around in 6 months time either way, so why not make that 6 month future a better one? I get like that too. Even though I've now lost about 40lb my brain still says "you're still fat, lose faster"... this is such warped mentality when the alternative could've been losing nothing at all! I also get really down about what I've done to myself, i.e. my arms will always be flabby, I'll never look goo on the beach because of my skin etc etc.... but what's the alternative? For me, I'm doing this for my health either way!

I fully admit this funk is based on warped mentality! I love my mom, but she has always made the harmful mistake of telling me that I would never get married unless I lost weight. That is the tape running in my head since I was a teenager. These funks are me giving in to that message instead of fighting back. But you are right, this is about my health and feeling good about myself. Which, most days I feel really great about my progress, and even have glimpses in the mirror when I think, "damn! I look good!"

Thanks everyone for your support and ideas! These bumps in the emotional road to weight loss are rough, but having cyber-support is awesome!!
Caz

[VeggieMama]

I have dry dry dry skin so not an option to go without--the P2 summary:
Didn't switch from: liquid foundation (used oil-free lotion underneath), shampoos, conditioners, liq body wash
Did change to: Neutrogena cleanser, neutrogena oil-free for SENSITIVE lotion, handled ointments and lotions for my kids very rarely and used a washcloth to apply (I don't keep latex gloves at the house) or rushed to wash my hands ASAP. Oily foods for others weren't really an issue, since I applied olive, canola or CO to the pan/bowl itself and used utensils.

[sweetiepie]

...telling me that I would never get married unless I lost weight.

Ugh. Yeah, family is fun. I have letters from my late grandfather saying the exact same thing - going back 15 years, by the way. My dad has called me his "fat little child" for as long as I can remember. Oh, and my mom either offers to pay weight-loss programs or calls me to tell me about some new fad that she read about. I usually ate chocolate to drown out their nagging.

Oh, and when younger, I would often be sexually permissive/ promiscuous (is that what you call this?) to prove to myself that hey, I might be fat, but I can still have sex! See, things aren't all that bad! I think Jayy said it before - guys will bonk jelly, if necessary.

Truth is, some otherwise perfect guys will not even consider you when you are fat. Not sure if I can blame them - while I like my guys to have some substance, I wouldn't want someone morbidly obese, either. (TMI - did once, and loads of belly fat makes the private parts shrink, which isn't good.) Guys who only look for super-slim, I wouldn't want in any case - who cares for someone with such superficial tastes? Oh, and apparently in Germany, fat chicks are really wanted by Africans... no matter how fat, I always get hit on by black guys on the streets. Then again, they could be looking for a green card.

So losing weight makes things easier, just because it broadens the selection out there. I know no guys who are looking for supermodel, some cushion is usually perfectly fine... once you are down some more, you will suddenly be within the "possible" range for many. So really, someone will come along. Cannot promise it will be a prince, but kissing frogs can be fun, too.

We cannot turn back time. Fact is that the time is now, and we can only change what we are now. Would my youth have been different if I was thin? Sure. But life is the way it is... and who knows how awesome the future will be? As for kids... I don't know. I used to say "before 38, if at all". Now I say "before 40, if at all." Once you are a certain age, things tend to go a LOT faster than when you are younger. Most of my friends meet someone new, then move in together within 2 months... and often, kids follow quickly. Cortisol doesn't just hamper weight loss, it also harms fertility - and worrying doesn't help.

Story of my best friend - with a guy for 13 years, finally she was ready to have kids and get married (which she never considered before), then he breaks up. She was 32 back then, so slightly worried - she lost the house, had to get an apartment, and was really at wits end... after all, they were together since her school days. We partied hard for 6 months, she had some flings, we go to a party and run into my former neighbor... 6 months later, they moved in together, tried for a baby soon after (and finally succeeded; the little pumpkin is 1 1/2 now), and got married 2 weeks ago. Things happen... usually, for some reason that we can never quite fathom.

You will meet someone, no worries. But again, no guarantee on Mr Right. Oh, and if you ever see my Mr Right, send him my way! (Educated, funny, sexy, Jewish... preferrably.) I have some that fit the first three characteristics, but the fourth is really difficult in Germany. I just gotta find someone when going on vacation to Israel next time. And boy, am I wearing a swimsuit/ bikini by then!

[MarinewifeandMomto4]

Yes that is the dosage I take...and yes they are hhcg...they have 6x,12x,30x & 60x hcg frequencies. the label says there are 390 in a bottle.

I live about 90 minutes east of Ocean City..we are between OC and the Bay Bridge. Have you been to OC?

I used to go to Salisbury State many years.... ago. We are actually heading to OC this August for our family vacation. It will be the first time 3 of our children have been there the oldest and I used to go many times when I was a single parent before getting remarried 9 years ago. My husband and I were down in January to OC. One of our son's friends mom owns a townhome in OC. She let us go get away for the weekend and use the house. (We are in a custody battle for DH's daughter.. and she knew we needed a weekend away!) That was our first time back in 8 years. We have just been living all over the US so we haven't had the opportunity to go back. Also, we wanted to wait till the youngest was old enough to appreciate the beach and me not have a heart attack while she plays in the water. She's 4 so we thought this was the best time to go! I'm SOOOO excited!

[sweetiepie]

Girls, who's on MyFitnessPal? Wanna be buddies? My username is "gilowyn"... it can be fun to just cheer each others automatic updates!

Other than that - still stable. 5 days in a row. But it is TOM, so I am hoping (I know I shouldn't) for a swoosh right after. Really considering going back to P2 soonish (like, after 5 weeks) to see some significant losses again.... I really, really like losing weight.

Plans for today? Synagogue, then meeting my mom downtown - lunch somewhere (P3 rocks), and I need a new bra... my boobs are shrinking. Well, not in an unnatural way, but still. They will have to measure me again, see what the new size is; very curious, as I am sure the cup size hasn't changed - but the length certainly did. I had a breast reduction 12 years ago, which still makes for nice boobs... but I am hoping HCG won't deplete them altogether.

Ooh, and it's the Harley Days in Hamburg, so just sitting somewhere having coffee and watching heavy motorcycles pass will be fun.

Have a nice weekend, everyone, no matter which phase you are in!

[twingrls03]

This was discussed on another thread this morning and wondering just how many have changed..makeup, shampoo, handling greasy food etc. Did any of you make these changes? Personally I never changed my cosmetics, shampoos, soaps and I still handle my kids food etc just as always. I know some do change everything but I felt it seemed to extreme to change everything then try and add it back in later. Would I lose faster without it? I don't feel it would have made a difference and so far if it wasn't for my planned interruption I would be right on track of 1lb a day average. Besides, but why make myself even more neurotic about the diet than I already am. Its enough to keep up with the menu, choices (or lack of) and my goal.

I didn't change any of my products. The only thing I have been mindful of is not using lotion on my body unless I really need it. I care for kiddos at home so I very seldom wear any make up anymore. When I do it's Bare Minerals. Same shampoos, conditioners, body wash, deodorant. I felt the same way as you as far as it was enough to keep up with the lack of menu choices. LOL

[twingrls03]

LOL not the wrong person, you basically stayed the same also and lost just fine. I don't use extra lotions or anything but if my skin were really dry I would without hesitation. I continue to use my liquid makeup although mine is basically an oil free one anyway thanks to oily skin (ugh) but I use whatever shampoo and conditioner I am happy with and never look at labels on everyday things. I am not neurotic about handling my kids hamburger meat or fries or whatever they might be having either.

Ditto with handling food. I am handling LOTS of different foods. Who knows? Maybe I'd have bigger losses if that weren't the case.

[twingrls03]

Girls, who's on MyFitnessPal? Wanna be buddies? My username is "gilowyn"... it can be fun to just cheer each others automatic updates!

Other than that - still stable. 5 days in a row. But it is TOM, so I am hoping (I know I shouldn't) for a swoosh right after. Really considering going back to P2 soonish (like, after 5 weeks) to see some significant losses again.... I really, really like losing weight.

Plans for today? Synagogue, then meeting my mom downtown - lunch somewhere (P3 rocks), and I need a new bra... my boobs are shrinking. Well, not in an unnatural way, but still. They will have to measure me again, see what the new size is; very curious, as I am sure the cup size hasn't changed - but the length certainly did. I had a breast reduction 12 years ago, which still makes for nice boobs... but I am hoping HCG won't deplete them altogether.

Ooh, and it's the Harley Days in Hamburg, so just sitting somewhere having coffee and watching heavy motorcycles pass will be fun.

Have a nice weekend, everyone, no matter which phase you are in!

I am twingrls1 on MyFitnessPal. I just added you.

[zippadee]

Ditto with handling food. I am handling LOTS of different foods. Who knows? Maybe I'd have bigger losses if that weren't the case.

I think you're doing great! I have heard some to the extreme of using gloves when handling fatty hamburger for others, greasy foods etc but like I said this is difficult enough without being even more neurotic about it..for myself anyway.

Jumping in the conversation a few....When we are told things either while growing up or as in my case by an ex..it drops your self esteem to such a low level and I think those saying these things to us do not realize the impact it can have long term. I mentioned I have a bf now who loves me the way I am and reassures me of this alot BUT I am not happy with myself in regards to weight. (quick story) last night I ordered pizza for my kids and their friends who were visiting and I had my salad (yes I am getting stronger). During dinner my bf called and I explained what we were doing and he says eat the pizza you dont have to do this diet. Point...I know I need to lose weight BUT is this me having forever implanted in my head that I should so the bf is happy to be seen with me??. This is what I was made to feel like with the ex husband for way to many years. I know even by losing weight I will never be fully comfortable in my body..saggy skin etc. but figured if 99 percent of people never see me naked then I will at least be attractive dressed right? lol More importantly..healthy! My ulltimate goal on this isnt to be real skinny..its to be a comfortable weight with a healthy BMI. Goal is 170 not 140-150 where I am told I should be. I was that thin during high school and I know my body is way different now. lol Oh..did I mention my bf likes BBW? hehe
Sounds crazy but every morning I find myself staring in the mirror waiting for the day my face looks thinner. I HATE pictures expecially close up because my face always looks twice the size..or so I think anyway!Ok moving on....today was just under a 1lb loss and with TOM around so feeling bloated UGH! Not expecting much loss right now but hoping for no gain either ..wishful thinking?? The bad thing is I still get those little cravings during this time.

Happy losses to all and have a great weekend!!