Ok... we may not be skinny yet, but we're GOING to be! How are we going to deal with it?

I use fat to hide from men. I'm single and been through countless relationships with men that were huge disappointments.
I do have a BF now... thus I'm losing the 60-70lbs I've used to hide from men. Creep. He loved me anyway. lol

I don't think it's bad of you at all. Turning up our noses at the losers who treated us wrong is one of the most satisfying things about losing the weight. ha ha ha... you missed it buddy!! :hair flip & hip swing:

I was married for 7 years to a musician (drunk - pothead). 1 1/2 years after my daughter was born I divorced him. I understood the true meaning of JOY as soon as he was out of my house. I've been happily divorced for 11+ years. He destroyed me as far as men go... he was the worst. I couldn't get rid of him completely considering we had a child together so he and the others since him have added to the problem to make me this resentful, self righteous, skeptical woman I am today. Ok ok.. they didn't make me.. I made myself.

I'm a trusting soul... I can't help but see the best in everyone, until they prove themselves worse (which they always do). I still have hopes and dreams of some day finding Mr. Right and living happily ever after (I'm a Disney freak). Some day my prince will come! (ha ha ha riiiiight)

My husband is awesome. He loves me fat or skinny, however. I've lost weight for ME. And I feel more confident, more in control. Love it!

Oh, I agree, Colleen...my husband has always been the same. And, yes, this is for ME.......BUT.....I have to admit that the nice, unexpected side effect has been my husband's "over the top" reaction. I wasn't expecting it. He may be just trying to bolster my self-confidence on this (he's very supportive of my efforts), but either way, it feels pretty darn good...espec. at 40. This was a tough birthday for me, this year, not because of the "getting older" part, but...kind of hard to explain...I feel like I missed out on the very best of what my 30's could have been, because of my weight, health & the hermit I allowed them to turn me into. "They" say a woman's peak is her 30's & 40's. I just kind of wish I'd have figured this all out a decade ago. I would have enjoyed my 30's a lot more.

Oh well, no use crying over spilled milk. Today is a new beginning, and I intend to live out my 40's with gusto!!
Angela

Ruralakay - that is soooo cool! What fun! I'm so happy for you.. to have found someone that still makes you feel sexy after 18 years. :sniffle: You're a lucky woman!

I have everything! I mean everything I could ever want in life... except a good man. Sometimes I wonder if I'm not worthy or maybe Mr. Right was the finance' that died on me when I was 28 and there is no other.

Grammy - Another lucky woman! I'm losing for me too! :) I decided to do this before I met Capitan Guapo in the islands. It does make it more fun to think about how he's going to react when he see the new me tho! Talk about "come out of your shell" ha ha

Miss - I'm sure the men will find YOU! When is your 40th and how much weight are you trying to lose?

Self esteem... yah. Mine always seems to run bout parallel to my weight, which just sucks! I mean why can't we love ourselves and be confident regardless? We're all worth it no matter how much we weigh. I always want to be able to treat myself and look at myself like I do my best friends, but I'm so hard on myself.