Ok I know I posted a comment to all of this, but I am so tired I must have not hit add your comments LOL Guess that would have helped!
Fire - Deb I'm sure there is a mushy part to that stoney heart of his LOL
Before my husbands heart attack I was not an organ donor. My feelings were that even though I was dead I didn't want my body "dismembered". Even after the heart attack it took awhile for it all to sink in. We knew that his life expectancy was 5 years max & that eventually we would have to talk transplant. So it didn't hit me until last year around this time when the cardiologist decided it was time to talk transplant with a specialist. We knew we were running out of time. This is when my perspective really changed! This is how I try to explain to people how important being a donor is:
Imagine your son, daughter, husband, wife ect., has been in a horrible car accident & the ER doctor has told you that they are going to die because in the accident their pancreas or heart where damaged beyond repair & that the only hope of survival was a transplant. You would be BEGGING for anything & everything to be done to save the person you love! You would be hurt, angry & crushed if they died because no one wanted to donate to save their life! This is something that people go through on a daily basis. People die because there are not enough donors because a lot of people feel that they don't want their body cut up. But you need to stop & remember that at any moment you can be in that same exact position & you would want someone to save your life or your loved ones. Look at pictures of your loved ones & think about how you would feel if they were going to die & you knew that someone could save their life but chose not to.
YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN IT WILL BE YOU IN THIS POSITION - this really changed my thinking about organ donation. If there is no hope for your loved one the greatest legacy you can help them leave is the gift of life to another human being. Trust me the recipient will be thinking of your loved one everyday when they open their eyes and are able to live because your loved one gave them the most precious gift they will ever receive - LIFE
Very well put Annette. You really never know what tomorrow will bring. I think it's the Marines who say "the only good day is yesterday"
I also wanted to add that you need to make your wishes known to family members, because firedudett is correct, your loved ones can both over rule your wishes, or make their own decision on your behalf. But they are more likely to do what you have expressed to them that you want done.
You can also just say certain organs, say heart and liver, and nothing else. Or you can say any usable parts. All donations are welcomed and used.
As far as the "cutting up" part.....I can give lots of detail, because I have participated in many many many of these procedures over the last 12 years as an anesthetist, but won't do so in this forum :)). Everything is done as if you are a living, breathing, alive patient....because you are until the very end of the procedure. It is all very dignified...not at all like an autopsy. It is my least favorite of all surgeries....but I keep telling myself that many people will benefit from the time I spend here today. The transplant coordinators always send all staff members in the OR a letter telling them in general terms who and where the organs went. That letter always makes it worthwhile to me. I still cry when I get one.
So the take home here is....don't bury your organs!!! Give the gift of life! You can still have an open casket funeral....no one will know about the organs being harvested if you don't tell them.
I am totally 100% for giving anything of mine that can be used to save a life or make ones life better. It's either that or turn to dust.
Annette, I have no idea what the outcome is going to be in all of this for you but I just have to say that I am amazed with not knowing you how strongly I sense God's presence just in reading your posts and in praying for you. Maybe it just means that He is close and that ever present help in your time of need. Our days are in his hands and not a hair on our heads falls out without him knowing it. I just know that he is going to see you both through this.
Annette & Elmer, Prayers go out to you for a match for your husband and for the surgeons skilled hands to perform the transplant. Stay strong and remember all of us are praying for you.
Barb - that is an amazing job you have!! Many people do not know that yes you can put organ donor on your drivers license but yes your family can challenge it. HOWEVER you can & should have an Advance Directive on file with their doctor. This will CLEARLY spell out your wishes on what can & can't be taken from you including your tissue. You even have the option to decide if they can be used for research projects!! You can even choose to keep everything in the US!!
Linda - Gods presence is all around us right now. All my fear of the past day has subsided & right now both of us are feeling an amazing peace. I'm tired & literally wiped out, but I am peaceful. We both know who is in charge & that he & only he will decide when the perfect time is. Elmer feels like tomorrow may be his day. We will wait & see. They just retested his numbers & they are now finally at a perfect transplant level. I'm not sure how many steps God wants to fall in place first, but I feel that the final steps are almost complete.
Mad Mommy - thank you for the prayers, they are really appreciated :-)
I seem to recall a barren field full of old dry bones in the Old Testement were flesh was grown on them right in front of a prophet. I am happy to share my organs, teeth, eyes, wiggly ears, and clod hopper feet with anyone who needs them. I have told my family I want all parts of my body that can be donated to be given. I would even like to donate my hair if Locks of Love would take it. I want to be cremated anyway. And after I'm cremated....then It's PARTY Time! Everyone must drink the beverage of their choice and dance on tables. I'm commanding it.
Lisa - can I have your clown outfit & including the shoes :o)
Hi everyone!
Things are still the same. Elmers pressures were back up in the middle of night but they have managed to get them back down. We are just waiting & waiting right now. I know God will provide the perfect heart soon. Everything that needed to be ready is now ready. Everyone that needed to be close by are here - I'm not sure if I mentioned this earlier but my dad is usually gone hunting this time of year. He has gone with the same men, this time every year for well over 20 years, he has NEVER missed a year. One Elmer & I's wishes was for my dad to be here when he had the surgery. Elmer & my dad are very close so it was important to him since his dad passed away when he was a teenager (yes heart related) my dad DID NOT get to go hunting this year. Certain circumstances kept coming up making it impossible for him to go. God put every road block in place that he could to keep him here. When my dad came up here to visit he told us it was God that kept him home, God knew that my dad was going to be needed here right now. So I know & I believe that the time is drawing near, very near.
I want to thank all of your for your continued prayers & all the donations on my FB page, YOU ALL HAVE IMPACTED MY LIFE MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER EVER KNOW!!!Thank you my friends I wish one day I can repay all of you for your love, kindness & support you have all given me.